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Friday, November 2, 2012

Tiny Beautiful Things

I had been hearing about Cheryl Strayed's Dear Sugar column on The Rumpus for a while, but I don't know why it took me so long to pick up tiny beautiful things: Advice on love and life from Dear Sugar.  Shame on me.

Sugar is an advice-giver in an advice column that answers letters of all shapes and forms.  She is intrepid and honest and strait-forward.  She inserts experience from her own life to accentuate what she needs to tell the advice-requester.  She writes compellingly and speaks with decades of wisdom yet is still young enough to have small children at home.  She lost her mother at a young age which profoundly affected her psyche.  Her father disappeared at a young age.  Her first marriage ended in divorce before her mid-twenties.  She is real.

This book devastated me.  I couldn't put it down.  I read the whole book in a Saturday.  Not because I had that much time but because the words that strung together in sentences that became paragraphs that all together became a reality that broke my heart and healed me and made me want to curl up in Sugar's lap and have her tell me it will all be ok while patting my head.

Sugar told me to write like a motherfucker, leave when you know it's time to leave, and always do what's best for my life.  She told me I am worth it.  She reminded me that relationships are messy and to expect nothing but the perfection is hurtful and harmful and unrealistic.  She reminded me that things will always be all right because they just have to be.  I knew these things already; see, I have lived them and learned them and am still continuing to live them and to learn them everyday.  But, most importantly, she reminded me how to just be.  Sugar isn't perfect, but she sure is honest.

And she sure knows how to write one hell of an advice column.

Get yourself a copy. Kindle version on the left, hard copy on the right:

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